To the Mothers Who Are Fixers of Everything, All the Time


Do you ever get to bed at night and look back on the day you had and think things like:

Only a mother could accomplish all of that…”

Boy, they have no idea how lucky they are…”

The outcome would have been so different if…”

So many nights I go to bed exhausted, but seriously in awe of what I accomplished during the day. Many of those nights follow days when things just didn’t go according to plan, and by nature, I stepped up, figured things out, and somehow made the day look effortless to others around me.

I’ve always been a fixer, but as a mom, I find that fixing is my undercover super secret skill, and I say that because sometimes I’m not sure the people I’m fixing things for really understand the amount of effort it takes to make all the things in our world come together.

Don’t get me wrong, my husband and my children are very good about displaying their appreciation for me, but on some days, I do secretly imagine how the day would have transpired if I hadn’t played fixer.

Take for example the day last month where I got my youngest son strapped into his car seat, went to turn on my car, only to find the car wouldn’t start. I immediately got my son out, went back upstairs and informed my husband that we were now all taking one car to work and I would drop everyone off at school and work, and then head into work myself and figure out the rest of the day from there. By 3pm I had already gotten my car towed to the dealership, approved the repairs needed to get it back in working order, and sent my husband a text to Uber to the dealership after work, pick up the car and food for dinner on the way home, and I’d grab the boys from school when my work day was over.

The very next day my husband thanked me again for driving him the day before and mentioned how great it was to get to commute together in the morning. My oldest son, who is four, loved that mom and dad were there to drop him off at school. And the youngest, well he got an extra hour nap in the car so it wasn’t too bad for him either. Me though, I left that day exhausted and drained and still came home to a normal night of activities that lead straight up to the minute I put my head on my pillow and waited until my alarm clock blared at 5 a.m. to start the chaos again.

As a Mom, Wife, Fixer of Everything, I do hereby declare that I will continue to make the world look like it operates effortlessly to those around me; but if I so much as get an eye roll when I try to go to bed 30 minutes early on those effortless but out of the ordinary nights you can expect one or more the following statements out of my mouth:

“Only a mother could accomplish all of that…”

“Boy, they have no idea how lucky they are…”

“The outcome would have been so different if…”

North Phoenix Moms, are there any other statements you’d add to this list? Comment below!

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Katie and her husband have called North Phoenix home since 2009. Katie is fully embracing boy mom life, as the mother to an energetic 3 year old who is known to introduce himself by saying “Hi, my name is Colton, I have fast shoes.” Katie is also welcoming a brand new baby boy scheduled to make his arrival mid-April 2017. In her spare time you will find Katie searching out the best deals for anything and everything or trying out new apps, software, and products that will increase her efficiency so she has more time to partake in her favorite activities: relaxing with her boys, taking power naps, and learning new skills! As someone who loves school and plans to be a lifelong learner Katie received her Bachelor of Science in Individualized Studies: Business & Marketing Education from Central Washington University in 2008 and then continued her studies at the University of Arizona where she obtained her Master’s in Higher Education with an emphasis in Access & Success in 2010. While working at ITT Technical Institute Katie was able to earn her MBA in 2012. She is an educational professional with almost 10 years experience in Career and Technical Education and Higher Education. She is passionate about assisting individuals in gaining success through access to education and career opportunities.


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