Making the Most of Mother’s Day: Advice for New Moms When Things Don’t Go as Planned


As a new mom, it’s important to remember that things don’t always go as planned or hoped, especially on special occasions like Mother’s Day. If things don’t turn out as you had envisioned, here are some tips to help you navigate the disappointment and make the most of the day.

I became a mother in the year 2000. Two weeks after my daughter was born, it was my very first Mother’s Day. It was dreamy. My mother came up from Houston to College Station, Texas to celebrate. We spent a day oohing and aahing over my daughter. My husband gifted me a beautiful necklace and all was well.

This created this unusually high expectation for all Mother’s Days to follow. It took me years to understand why I felt disappointed – and guilty about that disappointment. So, I hope I save you a few years (and a few fights) with this advice!

What to do when Things Don’t Go as Planned:

1. Be kind to yourself
Remember to be kind to yourself if plans don’t go as planned. It’s okay to feel disappointed or sad, but don’t beat yourself up about it. You’re doing the best you can as a new mom, and that’s something to be proud of. 

2. Adjust your expectations
If your plans fall through, try to adjust your expectations for the day. Maybe you can’t go out for a fancy brunch, but you can still have a special meal at home with your little one. Remember, it’s the quality time and love that counts, not the fancy plans. There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting your favorite takeout for the day! 

3. Embrace spontaneity
Sometimes the best memories are made in the most unexpected moments. If plans don’t go as hoped, embrace spontaneity and see where the day takes you. Maybe you can take a walk in the park or have a impromptu picnic. The possibilities are endless!

One of my favorite memories is when we drove over to Blanco Taco and ordered fajitas to go. (I had forgotten to make reservations and everything we tried had a huge wait time.) We drove to a nearby park and ate them in the back of the Tahoe and watched the kids play. We all went home happy and tired and full. 

4. Lean on your support system
If you’re feeling disappointed or overwhelmed, don’t be afraid to lean on your support system. Reach out to a trusted friend or family member for support, or join a community of new moms who can relate to what you’re going through. Sometimes just talking it out can make all the difference.

5. Remember that it’s just one day
Remember that Mother’s Day is just one day out of the year. You have the opportunity to celebrate being a mom every day, and that’s something to be grateful for. Take a deep breath, focus on the positives, and know that there will be many more opportunities to create special memories with your little one.

In conclusion, while it can be disappointing when plans don’t go as hoped, remember to be kind to yourself, adjust your expectations, embrace spontaneity, lean on your support system, and remember that it’s just one day.

Happy Mother’s Day, mama – you’ve got this!


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