The Day I Decided to Let My Daughter Be Comfortable In Her Skin

The not so perfect preschool fashions brought to you by my daughter!!! I don’t ever want to forget these moments. But I have to admit that many times I wanted my girl to look picture perfect. I used to have her hair done and outfit perfect before I was off to work…ESPECIALLY on days she was going to school. You know because if her hair was styled and she was dressed really cute that meant that I was a top notch mother. Because why would any decent parent send their kids to school looking like the picture below (please note that I had actually put an outfit together that was perfect but she went ahead and modified it and daddy let her.)

Daddy said, “I am fueling her creative spirit!! Don’t judge.”

I’m thankful for a hubby that did just that…what a humbling moment/statement. Because I was kind of judging and that really did get me thinking.

I mean how could you not love these types of outfits?!

I love that she proud of herself when she picks an outfit on her own. She will stop and and say, “Mommy take a picture of me!”

It’s just too easy to compare to perfectly styled kiddos on Instagram/Facebook/Pinterest (looking better than their own parents and having better closets too) and think how come my kids don’t look like that?!

Then I stopped and thought (with a little nudge from my hubby) is that what’s really important…how my daughter LOOKS?!

No not at all.

I truly believe comparison is the thief of joy so I try more now to ask her how she wants her hair (Queen Elsa braid all day every day) or what she wants to wear (dresses, skirts and fancy shoes ALWAYS.) I still have to reel her in sometimes, because she can’t wear costumes and party dresses every day, but I love that she is more involved.

We are teaching our daughters about the values they should have and the women they will be one day. I hope mine will be comfortable in her own skin and know it’s not about the clothes we wear but who we are that mean the most in life.